Relational Lives Podcast
Relational Lives is a podcast hosted by psychotherapists Alison Bickers and Ros Peckham, exploring the ways we connect with others—and with ourselves. Each episode brings real stories into focus through thoughtful conversations with guests, weaving personal experiences with psychological insight.
With warmth, curiosity, and professional depth, Alison and Ros make therapeutic ideas accessible, alive, and relevant to daily life.
Whether you’re reflecting on your relationships, seeking to understand yourself more deeply, or simply curious about the hidden patterns that shape us all, Relational Lives offers meaningful dialogue at the intersection of story and therapy.
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Thursday Mar 20, 2025
Thursday Mar 20, 2025
In this episode, we dive deep into the world of anxiety—what it is, why it happens, and how our brains can sometimes trick us into a cycle of worry. Join us as we explore the evolutionary roots of anxiety, the fight-or-flight response, and how modern overthinking turns our natural alarm system into a source of stress. We’ll share personal stories, and offer three practical takeaway tips to help you understand and manage your anxiety. Whether you’re dealing with social anxiety, performance fears, or just everyday worries, this episode is your first step toward making sense of it all. Tune in and start taming your tricky brain today!
Disclaimer: Please remember, this is not meant to be a replacement for personal therapy and is for information and self-reflection only. Please reach out to an appropriate professional in your area if you feel you need individualised help.
Show Notes:
Episode: Understanding Anxiety: Unpacking the Brain’s Alarm System
Welcome to our latest episode where we tackle the big topic of anxiety! We’re peeling back the layers of this common experience to help you understand what’s really going on in your brain and body. From catastrophizing to sweaty palms, we’ve got you covered with insights, relatable stories, and actionable advice.
In This Episode:
What is Anxiety? We break down the brain’s built-in alarm system and how it can’t tell the difference between a real threat (like a lion chasing you) and an imagined one (like a looming deadline).
The Tricky Brain: Discover how our evolved ability to think ahead and imagine scenarios can fuel worry, overthinking, and even physical symptoms like a racing heart or dry mouth.
Personal Reflections: We share our own experiences with anxiety, including performance fears tied to past humiliations and the pressure of big upcoming events.
The Vicious Cycle: Learn how avoidance and overpreparation can keep anxiety alive—and what to do instead.
Takeaway Tips: We wrap up with three simple, practical strategies to start understanding and managing your anxiety today.
Three Takeaway Tips:
Name It to Tame It: Give your anxiety a name (like “Little Miss Anxiety”) to create distance and recognize when it shows up.
Reflect on the Roots: Look back at your past experiences—school pressures, family dynamics, or hormonal shifts—to uncover where your anxiety might come from.
Spot the Patterns: Identify habits like avoidance or overpreparing that keep your anxiety going, and start journaling to track them.
Resources Mentioned:
Check out Ross Harris’s brilliant animation videos on YouTube, like “The Struggle Switch,” for a quick and clear look at how we get stuck in anxiety cycles. Links below!
The Struggle Switch - YouTube
Connect With Us:
Have a question or want to share your anxiety story? Reach out to us at Relationallives@gmail.com
Subscribe for more episodes on anxiety, including future deep dives into social anxiety, panic attacks, and worry.
Next Episode Teaser:
We’re looking at how to stop beating yourself up about things. Don’t miss it!
Thanks for Listening!
If you found this episode helpful, please leave us a review on Podbean or share it with a friend. See you next time as we continue to explore the messy, marvelous human brain!
Wednesday Mar 19, 2025
Wednesday Mar 19, 2025
Welcome to Relational Lives!
Join psychotherapists Ali and Ros as we kick off our new podcast, bringing you free, accessible insights into mental health, relationships, and how our minds and bodies work.
After years of dreaming about this (since 2018!), we’re finally here and we’re so excited to share this journey with you. In this trailer, we introduce ourselves, our mission, and why we’re stepping out of our comfort zone to create something for you.
As therapists, we know private therapy isn’t cheap, so we’re offering bite-sized help and education on topics that matter—relationships with ourselves, others, and everything in between. No topic is off-limits, and it’s for all ages!
What to Expect:
Practical tips and therapist insights you can use every day Deep dives into mental health, the brain, and human connection Future guest experts and topics you suggest (get in touch!) A raw, real ride as we learn and grow alongside you
Disclaimer: Please remember, this is not meant to be a replacement for personal therapy and is for information and self-reflection only. Please reach out to an appropriate professional in your area if you feel you need individualised help.
Timestamps:
0:00 - Welcome to Relational Lives
0:30 - Why We Started This Podcast
1:20 - Our Goal: Free Mental Health Support
2:00 - What’s Coming Up & How to Join Us
Get Involved: Have a topic you want us to cover?
Subscribe now and hit the bell so you don’t miss our first full episode—we’ve got exciting stuff lined up!