Triggered: How Past Pain Resurfaces in the Present

In this episode, we explore what it really means to feel “triggered” and why some reactions in the present are powered by unhealed moments from the past. We look at how triggers show up in the body and nervous system, how they’re shaped by earlier relationships, and why they can feel so fast and overwhelming. You’ll hear practical ways to spot your own triggers, pause before reacting, and respond with more self-compassion. We also explore how triggers play out in close relationships, and how understanding them can move couples from blame and shutdown towards more safety and connection.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Triggers

01:19 Understanding Triggers and Reactions

04:01 Recognizing Personal Triggers

07:03 Defensive Reactions and Their Roots

10:01 The Impact of Triggers on Relationships

13:01 Exploring Emotional Responses

16:01 Triggers in Digital Communication

17:55 The Impact of Exclusion on Self-Perception

20:15 Understanding Triggers from Past Experiences

26:36 The Role of Core Beliefs in Emotional Reactions

31:29 Strategies for Managing Triggers and Reactions

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